January 17, 2024 Today marks six months since my eldest child Joseph Alexander Kossan passed away. His death certificate will forever say the wrong date, but I know beyond any doubt that Alex’s texts, calls, and heart stopped on July 17, 2023. My own heart is still shattered in a million pieces and often IContinue reading “Gratitude in Grief?”
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When I got busy, I got better
December 10, 2023 It is December and I have not done a blog post since October. I have written every day, but in my intense grief, I have felt like what I write is too raw or too painful to share with others outside of my trusted writing group. Sometimes, I can only share withContinue reading “When I got busy, I got better”
The Dawn of a New Day
This morning I awoke naturally as the sun began to rise just before 7:00 am. It still wasn’t over the mountains at 7:30 as I brought my cup of coffee and journal outside on the porch to meditate and begin my day. I enjoyed watching the clouds slowly change color from purple and red toContinue reading “The Dawn of a New Day”
Yoga For Grieving
Breathe in, breathe out. Stretch into an inhalation and relax into an exhalation. Doing yoga has been part of my morning routine for years now. The asana vary, the position of my yoga mat has shifted as I rearrange and make the room my oldest son left a year ago into my space. Yoga hasContinue reading “Yoga For Grieving”
Coming Out of the Storm
July 11,2023 Getting to the beach this year was more challenging than I ever expected. I have come to Wrightsville Beach or the Outer Banks of North Carolina for a week almost every summer of my life. I am lucky that although I have never been wealthy, my family and I are both middle classContinue reading “Coming Out of the Storm”
Rest, Relax, Repeat
It is officially summer, yet a different one from my typical. My husband recently took a job with the county and this year I am teaching summer school. We get a 3-day weekend each week and some weeks the county gives us extra-long weekends due to national holidays, elections and other things that merit closingContinue reading “Rest, Relax, Repeat”
Going to the Beach in My Mind
June 13, 2023 My dear friend and former colleague, Honor, taught me years ago to “Go to the Beach” whenever I needed a break from the stresses of our jobs and at the time a very difficult co-worker. She inspired me to find ocean wave soundtracks to listen to as I drove around town orContinue reading “Going to the Beach in My Mind”
In Tough Times, Remember to be Kind to Yourself
May 28, 2023 “In tough times, remember to be kind to yourself” was the title of an article I read yesterday in Mindful Magazine. It was extremely well timed for me, as if the universe was giving me permission to be human and admit that I had finally hit the wall after a series ofContinue reading “In Tough Times, Remember to be Kind to Yourself”
The Value of Dirt Therapy and Good Friends
April 30, 2023 This was a hard week. My ex-husband died unexpectedly of a heart attack and my sons, and I were thrust into turmoil. Alex had the unfortunate role of meeting the police at his father’s apartment for the distressing welfare check. He was understandably shaken, and I went to be with him asContinue reading “The Value of Dirt Therapy and Good Friends”
Detach and Distract
April 18,2023 When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on. These are expressions I grew up with and they float through my mind when things get tough. One of my good friends tells me when everything I am doingContinue reading “Detach and Distract”
Mindful Musings 